Cat is a case of NPD

Cat DeSpira

28 January

NPD: Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the Enablers they commonly attract....and why.

http://www.arachnoid.com/ChildrenOfNarcissus/narcissism.html

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  Ezra David Haith Excellent article. Also... sometimes a narcissist isn't grandiose. I made friends with someone who had esteem problems. She *thought* she had "low self-esteem," but in fact was more self-centered than anyone I had ever met. It was totally a one way relationship; the topic was always her, the attention always on her. And she demanded so much attention, it became impossible to satisfy! Finally she "exploded", telling me what a horrible person I was for not wanting to spend every waking moment talking to her. Somehow it was now my fault that she is so broken.

  28 January at 22:37 · 1
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  Cat DeSpira I spent two hours speaking.on the phone to a friend today who is a clinical psychologist. Her insight is always interesting. She taught me about enablers, but more on why and how they develop as "acolytes" to NPD people and how they create together toxic groups, etc.Thank god you walked away from the woman you mentioned and didn't stick around to see what she was truly capable of. It's a nightmare, trust me, and anyone who ever fought against someone with NPD or resisted giving in to the demands of one can attest to that.

  28 January at 22:48 · 1
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  Ezra David Haith How I got stuck in it was... I had just started my own "happiness project" and was sharing tips with her. She came up with all sorts of things she *could* do to raise her mood and "low self esteem" but never *actually* *did* any of them; even thought she said I was "really helping" her. Continuing in her perpetual misery was a good way to get attention, or so she thought.  It was becoming a scary "Fatal Attraction" type of thing. I'm glad she decided that I was "evil", because otherwise I have no idea how I would have gotten rid of her.

  28 January at 22:54 · 1
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  Cat DeSpira You stopped pacifying her . With NPD people that's when they rage, start blaming, accusing and wreaking havoc on you, sometimes for years. Glad you got out.

  28 January at 22:59 · 1
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  Ezra David Haith Me too. I was lucky. Damn lucky.

  28 January at 23:00 · Edited · 1
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  Cat DeSpira She did tell me how to disarm a NPD person and it is so against my nature to psychlogically wound someone. But she told me how to get this person off of me permanently. She told me what they fear more than anything in the world.: cold, harsh truth about them in broad daylight for all to see - an expose- with the same kind of brutal cruelty they use on their victims.

  28 January at 23:08 · 2
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  Ezra David Haith Good to know. Though I doubt I'll ever be in that situation again. (I hope.)

  28 January at 23:12 · 1
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  Cat DeSpira Yeah, me neither. I think I know how to identify them quickly now.

  28 January at 23:15 · 1
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  Joel Hedge They hate the cold hard truth .They call that humiliation. It is really the distance between who they demanded to be seen as and who we really see them as.

  28 January at 23:24 · Edited · 2
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  Ezra David Haith Can't triggering that kind of cognitive dissonance be dangerous?

  28 January at 23:25
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  Joel Hedge Humiliation is grounds for murder to the shallow like that even more than jealousy.

  28 January at 23:26 · 1
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  Cat DeSpira It can.

  28 January at 23:29 · 1
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  Cat DeSpira She didn't advise it. She just told me how it works, to explain the fears and insecurities behind the disorder.

  28 January at 23:32 · 1
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  John Salter That article describes a certain person in the gaming commumity that shall remain nameless. And I'm not talking about Captain J. Quint.

  29 January at 07:31 · Edited · 2
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  Joel Hedge There is nothing more offensive to these people than taking away their prized delusions. All propaganda is now geared to prop those delusions up. The message is: "everything you believe it true and you should spend your life convincing everyone of that."

  29 January at 00:07 · 3
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  Dustin Pease .......

  29 January at 01:08